It has become apparent that my post “All I am asking of you is that you identify as existing first.” has been completely misinterpreted. That has got to be at least in part a failing in my ability to write in a fully unoffensive manner. I’d like to apolgize to anyone who read the post and assumed that I was trying to be anything other than empowering. I’ve removed everything on my blog that pertains to it, excepting this. If anyone has any further questions/concers, feel free to leave them in my ask box.
I’m not putting this in your ask box because I don’t think that whether or not a rebuttal appears in public should be up to you.
Your post wasn’t misinterpreted, it was just… wrong. Labeling people as “cis” isn’t an attack on them. It’s removing the hierarchy of normality that gives us “trans” and “non-trans” (AKA, “normal”). Removing the elevated position of cis folks isn’t an attack. If you hear the word “cis” being thrown around with a lot of vitriol… well, removing the word wouldn’t change the sentiments being expressed, would it?
I mean, if a cis person is doing something that provokes a response of pain and anger from a trans person, why would you think taking the word “cis” off the table would change the way it plays out? And why is the bigger problem for you what the trans person says and not the reasons why they’re saying it?
You can say that you meant for the post to be empowering, but if people didn’t feel empowered by it that doesn’t mean they misinterpreted. It means you failed in your goal. The fact that you were starting from incorrect premises (like your take on “cis”) goes a long way towards explaining how this failure occurred.